Preparing for the Postpartum Journey: What Every Family Should Know

When it comes to birth, most parents spend months preparing—reading books, attending classes, and getting mentally ready for the big day. But what about after the baby arrives? The postpartum stage is just as important, yet it often slips under the radar. Many families assume everything will naturally fall into place, only to discover that recovery and adjusting to life with a newborn requires a thoughtful plan and plenty of support.

That’s why during prenatal visits, we encourage families to create a postpartum plan. Think of it as your roadmap for those early weeks at home—a guide to help you and your loved ones navigate boundaries, expectations, and support needs. A good plan can include:

• Who will visit in the hospital or birthing space?

• When (and how long) will visitors be welcome once you’re home?

• What roles will family and friends play in supporting your recovery?

• How will you set boundaries so your new family can bond in peace?

Pro tip: Don’t assume people know how to help—ask! Many loved ones want to support you but just aren’t sure how.

Once baby arrives, the spotlight shifts to recovery. Moms need time, rest, and nurturing care—but let’s not forget dads and partners. Their active participation in the first two weeks can make a huge difference, helping with bonding, setting routines, and giving mom the space she needs to heal. For dads who feel unsure, a Daddy Boot Camp can be a game-changer—teaching simple caregiving skills and boosting confidence.

Across cultures, postpartum looks very different. Some communities emphasize rest, food, and family care before moms even think about returning to “normal.” Indigenous and communal practices remind us that caring for new families isn’t a solo act—it’s a community effort. In the U.S., where independence is often valued over collective care, there’s so much we can learn by reflecting on these traditions and building more supportive postpartum experiences.

Here are a few practical questions to discuss when shaping your own plan:

1. Who’s in charge of cleaning the home?

2. Who’s cooking meals? (breakfast, lunch, and dinner)

3. Who will handle grocery shopping?

4. Who can run errands if needed?

5. If mom isn’t feeling well, who helps with feedings?

6. Who is welcome in the home, and for how long?

7. Aside from family, who will play an important role in recovery?

At the end of the day, remember this: postpartum is a season for healing, bonding, and adjusting as a family. Create space to rest, connect, and truly soak in these early days. With the right support and boundaries in place, you can move through this transition with more peace, balance, and joy.

You say prepare for Postpartum

Most individuals dedicate ample time to preparing for childbirth, recognizing the mental readiness required. Yet, postpartum, a crucial but often overlooked stage, is frequently underprepared for. Assumptions of ample support and ideal outcomes prevail, without thorough communication. Addressing this, during prenatal visits, families are prompted to create a postpartum plan, a vital discussion with partners and family. It encompasses essential aspects like defining boundaries, involvement of family and friends during birth and postpartum, birthing room guests, visitation timing, and defining support roles. This structured postpartum package aids families in navigating this transitional phase comfortably.

Upon returning home with the newborn, the focus shifts to recovery for both parents. While mothers’ needs are more apparent, fathers play a significant role in postpartum care. Encouraging fathers to partake actively for at least two weeks post-birth ensures family bonding, routine establishment, and support for the mother’s recovery.

For fathers seeking guidance, a Daddy boot camp serves as a valuable resource covering basic caregiving skills. Embracing diverse cultural practices, particularly those emphasizing communal support, can enrich the postpartum experience. Acknowledging the benefits of collective care in Indigenous communities, where postpartum care is prioritized over a swift return to normalcy, sheds light on alternative approaches.

In the United States, cultural diversity is abundant, offering opportunities for mutual learning and growth. However, a tendency to prioritize individual autonomy over communal support can hinder postpartum experiences. Reflecting on varied cultural postpartum practices can provide valuable insights for enhancing the overall postpartum journey.

 In the United States, cultural diversity is abundant, offering opportunities for mutual learning and growth. However, a tendency to prioritize individual autonomy over communal support can hinder postpartum experiences. Reflecting on varied cultural postpartum practices can provide valuable insights for enhancing the overall postpartum journey. another. Here are a few things to consider.

1. Who is cleaning the residence?
2. Who is cooking breakfast, Lunch and dinner?
3. Who will grocery shop?
4. Who will run errands?
5. If mom isn't feeling well who will help her with feedings?
6.Who is allowed in the home, when and how long?
7. Aside from the family who will be important to recovery?

Here are a few points to keep in mind. While we all have family and friends, it's essential not to assume they will automatically help. Instead, it's okay to inquire about what they are willing to assist with during the postpartum phase. After discussing the essentials, think about who you are comfortable having around your family and when. 

Remember, as a new family, it's crucial to allow time for bonding.

Wait what?

Wait What?

Today was an amazing day. As a birth worker we always enjoy the experience of laboring with families and having amazing births. You ask what is an amazing birth consist of? Well, an amazing birth is when a Mom is strong in mind, she know her limits and she is willing and able do the simple thing allow her body to work. We of course know the Birth itself is amazing that goes without saying.
Mrs. P is due September 17th and she apparently had the time of her life the past few days due to the most wonderful birthday celebration with her Husband. It is funny how when I first met them I was left with a lot of unanswered questions, do they like me? will they hire me? what did they think of me? They were a very pleasant couple. It was very clear Mrs. P will have the final word. If you knew this Mom you would believe all her words are the final word. this mom is not just beautiful and pregnant she is brilliant and has a very suddle since of humor.

As time past during the pregnancy I was excited and wonder what to expect with this couple. I was under the assumption that I would have plenty of time to prepare for their big day. This handsome little fella didn't think I needed to prepare.

I knew my holiday weekend would be a blast I just didn't know what would make it a blast. Lol!!
I was just finished breakfast as the phone starts to ring. I hear her say "I am leaking fluid and the midwife says to come to the hospital to get checked". I was having contractions last night". Ok! So,here is how the holiday is starting. I inform them it could be amnio fluid or baby could be on bladder once they test the fluid call me and let me know what they tell you. I know it could go either way, I just decided it is time to get ready. I was not sure what to expect but I knew I need to be ready just in case. My next call was being told that they were being admitted and to come to hospital.

This is a holiday weekend heading into Chicago. This was the biggest joke ever. It literally took forever. I made it and Mom labor had started without any assistance. I was excited because we were able to avoid any induction. Even thou she wasn't excited about the discomfort, she was definitely excited that she was able to avoid the Pitocin. The birth plan was clear, it appears that her request was heard in the heavens because there was no need to induce. Everything has started naturally. The labor is full force and has gone from 0 to 60 in the time it took me to commute to the hospital. This Mom was strong and hanging in there as best she could.

It was clear that Dad was concerned for his beautiful Wife. She sat on the edge of the bed working on her breath as I entered the room. The contraction were a little more than she would have liked. I immediately drop my bags to start working on making her comfortable. Baby was clearly in a not so favorable position. I remember the look she gave me of relief . We did everything we could to give her comfort. Baby wasn't interested in moving to make Mom feel any better. Back labor is our culprit. Oh! how I dislike back labor. Immediately, we go hands and knees with a bit of rebozo  and some hip squeezes. I was sure this would be our remedy. This little bundle wasn't interested in moving right away. After a while it was clear this labor is progressing and Mom is dilating at a steady rate.  Our issue would still be the contractions that are at 2 minutes long and a steady 5 minutes apart.

She is interested in her options after we weren't able to get relief from the contractions. I remind her no matter what your choice this is your birth. You need to do what is best for you and baby and if you need to have assistance relaxing then you should do what is best.

Mom is comfortable and resting now. Before we knew it she went from 6cm to 8cm and 30 minutes after she was complete and ready to push. Finally Baby is cooperating with us. Baby comes out and to have been in this room at that very moment was such a joy. There were so many emotions and Love in the room. This Mom and Dad were a picture of Love.

The Birthing room was filled with such Love and Joy. I had to contain my tears so I could help the family. Every family has their moment that is a very emotional birth and every time I am affected and it always feel like it is the very first time I have every supported a family. I love being there for family.

This family was wonderful and full fun and Love. I can't wait to see them along with our little handsome bundle of Joy that caused this Beautiful mom a little trouble.

Tunisia Macklin
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Fabulous almost 40 and fertile

Fabulous 40 and Fertile

I remember when trying to conceive at 38 years old my O.B. who I must say is the best.

Dr. Beister told me as long as I stay healthy without complications along the way she would support me with my journey for as long as I wanted to try.

I'm pleased to say we conceived when I was 39 years old. My O.B. still support our journey of conception if we would like to continue the journey. I am now 41 years old with a beautiful daughter and would love to continue my journey and I still have the support of my O.B.

 My advice will always stay the same find a physician who will be honest, genuine and supportive. You can shop around for the best fit for you.  Now, I must say be realistic in your request; conception is serious keep your health, your spouse & family in mind.

 I have been there and know what a family can go through. I had an ectopic and my fallopian tube ruptured. Do all the necessary exams to ensure the health of your reproductive organs.

Every O.B. you interview must be on the same page with you for care and labour and delivery. Discuss your idea of labour and delivery. Do the research stand your ground.  Also, Know the truth about your request, know the risks and know the hospital procedure for your request.

Everything you think is fantasy or unreal may in fact be a reality for you during this journey.
One thing I advise to families when I meet with them is to sit down and think about the most fanciful labour and delivery they can come up with and then we will discuss how we can make that fantasy a reality using realistic methods. I worked with a family this past January that blessed me so much with being a part of their best and most intimate moment. The Mother at the time of delivery was 49 years old. Yes, you read it right. I said “49 years old”. They had a beautiful baby girl.

Know this your journey doesn’t have to be over. Yes, you may have to have help. Look into your options. There are so many ways you can be helped if natural conceptions isn’t realistic for you. Speak to a fertility Dr. check into IUI and IVF. Believe it or not your medical insurance may cover some or all of the process. We were so blessed you have BCBS and they covered almost the entire IVF process.  

If you haven’t read my Blog, it takes a village I suggest you do. It will give a little direction on who you should look into as your team to prepare you for this journey.

A Doula is a great way to start with building your team.
Tunisia Macklin
Peaceful Birthing Doula
Educate, Encourage, Empower and Serving Women
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